Fem-porn? It's Complicated.

Assuming that Steve Martin and Alec Baldwin have seen It's Complicated, I'm probably the 3rd guy in America to watch this film. Okay, it's not meant for me and I'm not the target demo., but I may as well weigh in. Have you seen that really funny giftshop calendar, called something like Porno for Women? Has pictures of very hunky guys saying stuff like: Let's set the heat permanently on tropical!, and I can watch the game anytime, let's check out the figure skating. That's kind of what this movie's about: 50ish woman (Streep) hooks up with ex-husband (Baldwin), he's doting and absolutely crazy about her, in fact "takes a heart" (as we say in R.I.) when he sees her frontal naked. He pleads to come back to her, wants to leave his sexy but nasty wife and her brat kid. Streep is anguished, starts dating a sweet but dull guy (Martin). Her kids swarm around her and basically just huddle together, as if their entire lives are focused on parents and home (they're all 20plus, btw). Most striking of all, she lives in a fabulous house in Santa Barbara, magazine furnished, ocean views, pool (we don't see this touch till late in the movie). And it's not good enough! She's putting on an addition - "it took me ten years to do this" "at last I can have a real kitchen." Excuse me? Take a look at the kitchen she's got now and weep. Have to wonder whether the filmmaker (Meyer? Meyers - her previous film, with Nicholson and Keaton, touched all these same notes) shrewdly calculate this to play to our fantasies (rich people suffer as much as we do!) or that they are so insulated that to them, this is poverty. We're supposed to feel sorry for Streep when she books two doubles at a very high end nyc hotel - her ex (traveling separately of course) books a suite with park views. Sad moment when she flops onto a bed in her double. Oh, please. Baldwin supposedly a lawyer, though never seems to work. Streep owns a bakery, and her job seems like fun! For her. She's getting to be a pretty good cook, on film. She seems to spend about five minutes a day there, pouring lattes and sashaying through the kitchen with orders to the staff like : Let's make breakfast more fun! Somehow, this bakery supports her lifestyle? She must own Starbucks. Obvious creeaky narrative explanation regarding Baldwin's adopted 3-year-old brat kid - makes me think in earlier version he was Baldwin's kid but it would be too damning of his character if he were abandoning his own kid so they forced something in about his wife (Agness, cq) left him, had the kid, came back to him, huh? Okay, overall, harmless fantasy stuff, and god knows there's plenty of macho fantasy film out there as well. But couldn't it have been slightly realistic? or funnier? You can't get laughs out of a scene with Steve Martin and Meryl Streep stoned together? Something's gotta give.